Are You Earning Money For Your Father-in-law & Mother-in-law?
The title asks you one question, but I’m going to ask you another 4 questions right now. Four very simple questions.
FIRST: When was your first income? • SECOND: How did you earn it? • THIRD: How did you spend it? • FOURTH: Why did you earn it?
Most of us can answer the first 3 questions easily, but when it comes to the last question, we don’t really have an answer. I mean, we do have an answer, but we are not sure about that. We all have several reasons, some earn for their own needs, some earn for their parents, some for their girlfriends, etc.
But we all forget one golden rule – “We don’t actually need to earn unless there is a NEED.” Why am I saying this? Because don’t seek for good income, seek for good knowledge.
Why Do We Earn? Why We Need Money? What’s The Point?
So many questions aren’t it? Life sometimes gives you hard times, but just ignore them or learn from them. I met my neighbor friend after a long time, and now I’m going to talk about him (sorry macha!). 😛 He is 25 years old, and he is about to get married. Now that’s a good thing. He is 25 years old, healthy, smart-looking, good-character, financially strong (I mean he is earning 40K+/month, some IT firm), and what else they need extra? I asked him about his startup, and he said, “No macha, I don’t think I can earn from it anymore, it’ll take some time I guess.” Then I curiously asked, “Who said there is no time? You are still young, and you are talented nevertheless.”
Then he said something, after that I started to cry, literally. Within few months, he will get a good position in his company and he’ll get a salary hike. So he said that he needs to work hard so that he can get a good salary and settle down. He said he has no time to work on his startup. I was like, “Dei, o**a enna da solra?” I said, “You are earning 40K per month and even your yet-to-become wife is also earning, so why don’t you rest a bit and work on your dream startup?”
Then he said his spouse’s parents are expecting a guy who earns good like it’ll be a good thing for their society and they said only with good salary a husband can treat his wife like a princess. So he is earning as much as he can before he gets married. This made me very curious. Our meet ended there, but my curiousness didn’t.
Are we earning for our Father-in-law and Mother-in-law? Most of the parents will seek a boy who earns handsomely, yes I do understand money matters, but what’s the point in earning so much and living a dead life? Normally we don’t actually earn for our parents, we earn for our own destination and experiments. Why should “Marriage” interrupt the way we live our lives, the way we live our passion? If you are earning 20,000INR per month, you should work hard, get in a good position and then seek good income. Don’t ever seek good income just because someone expects you to earn.
Here is what some people do, they find a good higher position (say Assistant Software Developer) and it is 10 times better (in terms of salary and blah blah) than his current position. But he/she forgets to think one important thing, their job position is 10 times better but is their knowledge 10 times better or at least 5 times better for that role? Why do we need that job, just for our future marriage? Just for our in-laws? Just because the society thinks, “Hey look, he is earning 70K/month, he should be a good guy.” A local businessman (who might stitch shoes), he earns 100rs per day, does that mean he is a bad guy?
Take RISK – But Do It Before You Get Married or Get Kids
Just because you work in a good IT company doesn’t mean you should work there permanently, you have a Life, and you might have a goal. If you love to start a business, go ahead, take a risk. But do them before your marriage or before you start to have kids. Because it is rare to get supportive partners (wife/husband), but if you do get one then half of your problems are already solved.
Calculate your daily expenses, analyze your needs, see your monthly income and live a good life. If you are working as a Software Engineer and you don’t have any idea about “Software”, then spare some time and find a job that interests you or the job you have knowledge in, after that quit the current job and move to that one.
You can earn for your parents, for your children, and for your grandchildren, but don’t ever think about your “in-laws” when you are earning. It’s your life, not theirs. Seek good knowledge, not good income.